The term miscarriage usually describes the interruption of pregnancy by the sixth month of pregnancy. An early miscarriage is called a cessation of pregnancy that occurred in the first 12 weeks. These miscarriages account for the largest share of all perinatal loss , about 75 percent. The most common causes of such miscarriages are of genetic origin.
Miscarriages occurring in the second trimester of pregnancy (13-20 weeks of pregnancy) account for about 3% of all miscarriages. They are most often caused by anomalies of the cervix, infectious or genetic diseases, but sometimes the cause cannot be determined.
Miscarriage is the loss of a child in any period of pregnancy, since a woman is already experiencing contact with a established, very closely connected with the life of a new person. As a rule, a pregnant woman quite quickly begins to perceive and feel herself in a new way - in a relationship with a child. And suddenly all this breaks down. The more intense the connection with the child a woman feels, the more painful the feeling of loss and the experience of mourning are, so it cannot be judged by the duration of the wait. Since the largest part of miscarriages occurs precisely in the early period of pregnancy, this grief of loss is experienced by a sufficiently large number of parents.
As a rule, early loss is complicated by the misunderstanding of those around you, and often of those closest to you, who consider that the reason for mourning is too little. This forces a woman to close, be afraid to show, and avoid expressing her experiences. "Comforted" with empty phrases ("You won't do anything", "it's already the case", "it's good that now, not later", "you will have other children", "and my girlfriend was like that", etc.), the woman experiences a discrepancy between what she feels and what others say. She can even question the normality and legitimacy of her feelings and, as a result, survive an even greater emptiness and fear of opening up.
Having suffered a miscarriage at an early stage, this confusion of feelings is usually also accompanied by a strong feeling of guilt: why did I, where is my mistake, maybe I should have acted differently? To the smallest detail, a woman analyzes various situations and her behavior as if involuntarily looking for clues. This is a very tormenting experience, so without the help of others it is very difficult for a woman to get out of a state of self-loathing.
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At the center, you can get individual psychological consultations (5-7) or join a mutual support group. They are organized 2-3 times a year. A mutual support group is a class led by an experienced psychologist, the members of which are united by similar experiences. The participants of the group tell each other their experienced stories, share unique experiences, look for effective ways to solve problems, strengthen and support each other. Interrelationship is built without evaluations and prejudices. Up to 10 women participate in the group. Meetings are held 1 time per week, remotely.
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